Nurture your relationships
without the overwhelm

Tendr uses a beautiful garden metaphor and gentle reminders to help you stay connected with the people who matter most. Built for ADHD minds—supportive, never judgmental.

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Life gets busy.
Relationships fade.
You're not alone.

You lose track of time

Days turn into weeks. "I'll text them tomorrow" becomes "Has it really been two months?"

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What do I even say?

Crafting the perfect message takes energy you don't have. So you don't send anything at all.

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The guilt compounds

The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Until reaching out feels impossible.

Your relationships, visualized

Garden View
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Watch relationships bloom

Each person is a flower in your garden. Water them with messages, calls, and time together.

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Never overwhelming

Smart notifications that respect your time, energy, and focus. No guilt, just gentle nudges.

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Built for your brain

Visual progress, micro-commitments, and positive reinforcement. No shame, ever.

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Your data stays yours

Everything lives on your device. No tracking, no selling, no compromises.

Simple. Supportive. Effective.

1
Add People

Add Your People

Import from your contacts or add manually. Each person becomes a flower in your garden.

2
Set Schedule

Set Your Rhythm

Choose how often you want to connect. Daily, weekly, monthly—whatever feels right.

3
Get Reminders

Get Gentle Nudges

Receive kind reminders when it's time to reach out. Quick actions make it effortless to respond.

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Blooming

Watch Them Bloom

Celebrate growth with beautiful animations. Your garden flourishes as connections deepen.

Multi-flower Garden

Your social life, at a glance

See which relationships are thriving and which need attention. No spreadsheets, no guilt—just a beautiful, calming view of your connections.

  • Multiple garden themes (Spring Blossom, Desert Succulents, Tropical Oasis, and more)
  • Flowers grow through stages: seed → sprout → bud → bloom
  • Gentle wilting when relationships need care (but they always recover!)

Reminders that respect your brain

Built for ADHD minds. Our notifications are supportive, not demanding. They work around your schedule and never make you feel bad.

  • Context-aware timing (never during work hours or sleep)
  • Customizable quiet hours and daily limits
  • Gentle language: "When you're ready" not "You must"
  • One-tap actions to respond instantly
Gentle Notification
Quick Actions

Lower the barrier to connect

The hardest part is starting. We make it effortless with pre-written messages, quick call buttons, and smart conversation starters.

  • Pre-written message templates
  • AI-suggested openers (optional, on-device)
  • Direct links to Messages, Phone, FaceTime
  • Log interactions with a single tap

Your relationships are sacred

We never see your messages, contacts, or interactions. Everything stays on your device, encrypted and private.

  • Local-first data storage
  • No message content collection
  • No contact data sharing
  • Optional cloud sync (encrypted end-to-end)
  • Export your data anytime
🔒 Privacy
Achievement Unlock

Celebrate every small win

ADHD brains thrive on positive feedback. Unlock achievements, earn collectibles, and celebrate consistency—without the pressure.

  • No punishment for missing days
  • Collectible garden decorations
  • Weekly progress celebrations
  • Streak recovery (no guilt!)

12 stunning garden themes

Loved by thousands nurturing
their relationships

★★★★★

"As someone with ADHD, Tendr has been life-changing. I finally have a system that works WITH my brain instead of against it. My friends have noticed I'm more present."

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Sarah M.
iOS user
★★★★★

"The garden metaphor is genius. It turns relationship maintenance from an overwhelming chore into something beautiful and meditative."

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Alex K.
iOS user
★★★★★

"I used to feel so much guilt about forgetting to text people back. Tendr's gentle reminders have eliminated that completely."

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Jamie R.
iOS user
★★★★★

"Beautiful design, thoughtful features, and actually helps me stay connected. Rare trifecta!"

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Morgan L.
★★★★★

"The one-tap message templates are perfect for when I'm overwhelmed but still want to reach out."

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Jordan P.

Watch: How Tendr helped me rebuild my social life

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Taylor S.

Start free. Unlock more when ready.

Free Forever

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Perfect for getting started

  • ✓ 3 Free Themes
  • ✓ Up to 3 contacts
  • ✓ Up to 100 interactions per month
  • ✓ Basic analytics (3 months history)
  • ✓ iOS system integrations
Download Free

Tendr Plus

$4.99 /month

For deeper connections

  • ✓ Everything in Free, plus:
  • ✓ Unlimited contacts
  • ✓ Unlimited interactions
  • ✓ All premium themes (12+)
  • ✓ Advanced analytics & insights
  • ✓ Cloud backup & sync
  • ✓ Custom reminder settings
  • ✓ Data export (CSV/JSON)
  • ✓ Priority customer support
  • ✓ iOS system integrations
Start 14-Day Free Trial

Cancel anytime. No commitment.

Can I upgrade later?

Absolutely! Upgrade anytime and keep all your progress.

Will you ever add ads?

Never. We're committed to an ad-free, respectful experience.

What about my data?

Your data stays on your device. We never sell or share it.

Student discount?

Yes! Email us for 50% off Plus with valid student ID.

Refund policy?

30-day money-back guarantee, no questions asked.

Can I try Plus first?

Yes! Start with a 14-day free trial. Cancel anytime.

Designed with neurodiversity in mind

Every feature is intentionally crafted to work with—not against—ADHD brain patterns.

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See your progress instantly

External visual cues help with time perception and motivation.

Just one small action

Break down overwhelm into tiny, achievable steps.

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Celebrate wins, not misses

Reward systems without punishment or guilt.

Work with your rhythm

Adapt to your energy levels and focus patterns.

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Minimal cognitive load

Information when you need it, peaceful silence when you don't.

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Judgment-free zone

Missed a reminder? Your flowers are ready when you are.

Traditional apps vs. Tendr

Feature Traditional CRMs Basic Reminders Tendr
Visual progress ❌ Lists only ❌ None ✅ Beautiful garden
ADHD-optimized ❌ Complex ❌ Basic ✅ Purpose-built
Gentle reminders ❌ Aggressive ⚠️ Generic ✅ Supportive tone
Privacy-first ❌ Data collection ⚠️ Cloud-required ✅ Local-first
No guilt/shame ❌ Streak punishment ⚠️ No context ✅ Always recoverable
Beautiful design ❌ Utilitarian ❌ System default ✅ Glassmorphism
Context awareness ❌ None ❌ None ✅ Location + time
Cost 💰 $$$$/year Free but limited ✅ Free forever

Your relationships deserve
better than forgotten reminders

Join thousands nurturing meaningful connections with Tendr.
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